WINGS OF MAN
written by: Barbara Williamson- Wood
Some men walk across the plains
other men soar the skies;
It matters not the path you take
to open your heart to the cries.
with shattered dreams
from golden promises gone astray;
One only needs to spread his wings
And let hope command
Trauma Survivor's Bill of Rights
Copyright (c) 1995 by Thomas V. Maguire, Ph.D.
191 King Street, Chappaqua, NY 10514.
All rights reserved, except
that permission is hereby granted to freely reproduce and distribute this document, provided that it is reproduced unaltered
in its entirety and distributed free of charge.
As a Matter of Personal AUTHORITY, You Have the Right:
- to manage your life according to your own values and judgment.
- to direct your recovery, answerable to no one for
your goals, effort, or progress.
- to gather information to make intelligent decisions about your recovery.
- to seek
help from a variety of sources, unhindered by demands for exclusivity.
- to decline help from anyone without having to
justify the decision.
- to have faith in your powers of self restoration and to seek allies who share it.
- to trust
allies in healing as much as any adult can trust another, but no more.
- to be afraid and to avoid what frightens you.
to decide for yourself whether, when, and where to confront your fear.
- to learn by experimenting, that is, to make mistakes.
For the Preservation of Personal BOUNDARIES, You Have the Right:
- to be touched only with your permission, and only in ways that are comfortable.
- to choose to speak or remain silent,
about any topic or at any moment.
- to choose to accept or decline feedback, suggestions, or interpretations.
- to ask
for help in healing, without having to accept help with work, play, or love.
- to challenge any crossing of your boundaries.
to take appropriate action to end any trespass that does not cease when challenged.
In the Sphere of Personal COMMUNICATION, You Have the Right:
- to ask for explanation of communications you do not understand.
- to express a contrary view when you do understand
and you disagree.
- to acknowledge your feelings, without having to justify them as assertions of fact or actions affecting
- to ask for changes when your needs are not being met.
- to speak of your experience, with respect for your
doubts and uncertainties.
- to resolve doubt without deferring to the views or wishes of anyone.
Specific to the DOMAIN of Psychotherapy, You Have the Right:
- to hire a therapist or counselor as coach, not boss, of your recovery.
- to receive expert and faithful assistance
in healing from your therapist.
- to be assured that your therapist will refuse to engage in any other relationship with
you, for life.
- to be secure against revelation of anything you have disclosed, unless a court of law commands it.
to have your therapist's undivided loyalty in relation to any and all perpetrators, abusers, or oppressors.
- to receive
informative answers to questions about your condition and your hopes for recovery.
- to receive information about goals
and methods of treatment and the therapist's qualifications.
- to have a strong interest by your therapist in your safety.
to expect your therapist to use all legal means to neutralize an imminent threat to your life or someone else's.
- to know
reliably the times of sessions and of your therapist's availability.
- to establish, if you so desire, a commitment to
work together for a set term.
- to telephone your therapist between regular scheduled sessions (in urgent need)
have urgent calls returned within a reasonable time.
- to be taught skills that lessen risk of retraumatization:
containment (reliable temporal/spatial boundaries for recovery work);
---(b) systematic relaxation;
---(c) control of
attention and imagery (through trance or other techniques).
- to reasonable physical comfort during sessions.
have your therapist's commitment to you not depend on your "good behavior," unless criminal activity or ongoing threats to
safety are involved.