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Educating for the Prevention of Abuse

This site is dedicated to the dream of Joyce A. Anthony and Barbara Williamson-Wood, W.I.N.G.S. cofounders


We are writers with a goal to help as many as we can. Our causes are familiar. There is a lot of talk, a lot of money thrown around, but the problem persists. There are resources available but that does not mean that those that need these resources have access to, or know where, to find them.
We eventually will expand to cover many issues. But until we have the manpower and resources our primary focus will be abuse, both spousal and childrens. A broken child becomes a broken adult. The cycle will repeat. We must break this pattern. Abuse in the home involving adults affects everyone, adult, child and animal. There is no such thing as a good beating. Abuse can be physical or emotional. Do not be fooled! Just because you do not see bruises does not mean there is no abuse. Emotional abuse carries scars that are deeper and more painful. This is the abuse that causes the most damage.
Our goal is to get the list of resources into the hands of those that need them. To do this we need people to distribute our monthy newsletter. Each issue will focus on one specific topic but will have articles on other issues as well. There will be a list of resources specific to a general area. We would like to expand to the point where we can have a resource list for everyplace. Obviously we cannot do that, but we will have as many resources available to be located on this website.
We cannot do it alone, nor can we 'fix' all the problems. However, by doing nothing we let the problems continue. We as writers can emphasize the problems and point the way as well as show warning signs.

written by: Barbara Williamson- Wood
Some men walk across the plains
other men soar the skies;
It matters not the path you take
to open your heart to the cries.
Humanity abounds with shattered dreams
from golden promises gone astray;
One only needs to spread his wings
And let hope command the day.

Trauma Survivor's Bill of Rights

Copyright (c) 1995 by Thomas V. Maguire, Ph.D.
191 King Street, Chappaqua, NY 10514.

All rights reserved, except that permission is hereby granted to freely reproduce and distribute this document, provided that it is reproduced unaltered in its entirety and distributed free of charge.

As a Matter of Personal AUTHORITY, You Have the Right:

- to manage your life according to your own values and judgment.
- to direct your recovery, answerable to no one for your goals, effort, or progress.
- to gather information to make intelligent decisions about your recovery.
- to seek help from a variety of sources, unhindered by demands for exclusivity.
- to decline help from anyone without having to justify the decision.
- to have faith in your powers of self restoration and to seek allies who share it.
- to trust allies in healing as much as any adult can trust another, but no more.
- to be afraid and to avoid what frightens you.
- to decide for yourself whether, when, and where to confront your fear.
- to learn by experimenting, that is, to make mistakes.

For the Preservation of Personal BOUNDARIES, You Have the Right:

- to be touched only with your permission, and only in ways that are comfortable.
- to choose to speak or remain silent, about any topic or at any moment.
- to choose to accept or decline feedback, suggestions, or interpretations.
- to ask for help in healing, without having to accept help with work, play, or love.
- to challenge any crossing of your boundaries.
- to take appropriate action to end any trespass that does not cease when challenged.

In the Sphere of Personal COMMUNICATION, You Have the Right:

- to ask for explanation of communications you do not understand.
- to express a contrary view when you do understand and you disagree.
- to acknowledge your feelings, without having to justify them as assertions of fact or actions affecting others.
- to ask for changes when your needs are not being met.
- to speak of your experience, with respect for your doubts and uncertainties.
- to resolve doubt without deferring to the views or wishes of anyone.

Specific to the DOMAIN of Psychotherapy, You Have the Right:

- to hire a therapist or counselor as coach, not boss, of your recovery.
- to receive expert and faithful assistance in healing from your therapist.
- to be assured that your therapist will refuse to engage in any other relationship with you, for life.
- to be secure against revelation of anything you have disclosed, unless a court of law commands it.
- to have your therapist's undivided loyalty in relation to any and all perpetrators, abusers, or oppressors.
- to receive informative answers to questions about your condition and your hopes for recovery.
- to receive information about goals and methods of treatment and the therapist's qualifications.
- to have a strong interest by your therapist in your safety.
- to expect your therapist to use all legal means to neutralize an imminent threat to your life or someone else's.
- to know reliably the times of sessions and of your therapist's availability.
- to establish, if you so desire, a commitment to work together for a set term.
- to telephone your therapist between regular scheduled sessions (in urgent need)
- to have urgent calls returned within a reasonable time.
- to be taught skills that lessen risk of retraumatization:
---(a) containment (reliable temporal/spatial boundaries for recovery work);
---(b) systematic relaxation;
---(c) control of attention and imagery (through trance or other techniques).
- to reasonable physical comfort during sessions.
- to have your therapist's commitment to you not depend on your "good behavior," unless criminal activity or ongoing threats to safety are involved.


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